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Old People Behaving Badly
1April 13, 2012
Last week, a friend in his mid 60’s approached me who knew about my undergraduate studies in sexual behavior. He was wondering at what age he was likely to stop having sex. It caught me as odd because he seems spry, but this is not as uncommon a question as you’d think. Most people assume that sex stops after some vague age.
Here is a statistic you can’t unlearn: Last week, more than half of those aged 57 to 75 said they gave or received oral sex. Yes, Grandpa went south on Grandma, and in return she gobbled Grandpa’s knob.
It doesn’t stop at 75 either. Over a third of 75 to 85 year olds also partook of the carnal pleasures of the flesh.
An unprecedented study of sex and seniors finds that many older people are surprisingly frisky. They are willing to do, talk about, and even demonstrate intimate acts that would make their grandchildren blush.
That may be too much information for some folks. Granny bouncing on Grandpa naked in the bedroom is enough to get most of us to plug our ears and say, “LALALALALA, I DON’T WANT TO KNOW.”
However, we all are getting older, and why should the youth of the world be the only ones enjoying their partners? As expected, sex and interest in it do fall off when people are in their 70s, but more than a quarter of those up to age 85 reported still being sexually active.
And the drop-off has a lot to do with declining health or lack of a partner, not due to age.
The federally funded study, done by respected scientists and published in the New England Journal of Medicine, overturns some stereotypical notions that physical pleasure is just a young person’s game.
Some results:
- Sex with a partner in the previous year was reported by 73 percent of people ages 57 to 64; 53 percent of those ages 64 to 75, and 26 percent of people 75 to 85. Of those who were active, most said they did it two to three times a month or more.
- Women at all ages were less likely to be sexually active than men, but they also lacked partners as far more were widowed.
- People whose health was excellent or very good were nearly twice as likely to be sexually active as those in poor or fair health.
- Half of people having sex reported at least one related problem. Most common in men was erection trouble (37 percent); in women, low desire (43 percent), vaginal dryness (39 percent) and inability to have an orgasm (34 percent).
- One out of seven men used Viagra or similar substances to improve sex.
Sexual problems can be a warning sign of diabetes, infections, cancer or other health woes. Untreated sex issues can lead to depression and social withdrawal, and people may even stop taking needed medications because of sexual side effects, the researchers wrote.
“This subject has been taboo for so long that many older people haven’t even talked to their spouses about their sexual problems, let alone a physician,” said the lead author, Dr. Stacy Tesser Lindau, a University of Chicago gynecologist.
Researchers also used state-of-the-art technology and products donated by several companies to test people’s senses. Taste strips were used to see if people could distinguish between various tastes (sour, salty). Special devices were used to test the ability to smell certain scents, including a suspected pheromone — a smell thought to evoke sexual responses.
Niels Teunis, an anthropologist and researcher at the Institute of Sexuality, Social Inequality, and Health at San Francisco State University, said the survey bolsters the “use it or lose it” factor seen in previous studies.
Jack Menager, 83, and his wife, Elizabeth, 84, say they have had a good sex life for nearly 60 years. “If you are doing it, you keep doing it. If you slack off in marriage like when you’re in your 40s, it’s hard to pick it up when you are older.”
The couple takes twice-daily walks, drinks wine in moderation and talks a lot, said his wife. “I think it’s important,” she said of sex. “It just makes you feel close.”
Menopause has a big effect on women, and the drop-off of estrogen makes many of them less interested in sex, Dr. John Bancroft of the Kinsey Institute for Research in Sex, Gender and Reproduction at Indiana University wrote in an accompanying editorial.
But menopause also means women no longer have to worry about getting pregnant, and many have more time and feel freer after children are gone.
The more you have sex, the better you will feel, no matter what age you are. Sex keeps you feeling young, feeling healthy, and is just plain fun. As long as you are still healthy enough to take walks, you are healthy enough to have sex. Just be gentle and avoid breaking a hip.
Ask Her, Vol 5. The Importance of Kissing
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Most of the questions I receive are from men looking for advice, but this one came in from a woman in Los Angeles and it spoke to me, so I felt the need to answer it here. Guys, this one is important! It may save your relationship someday!
Dear Lea,
My boyfriend and I have been together for about 6 months, and he doesn’t like to kiss me. He says he’s never enjoyed it and not to take it personally, but I love kissing so much that I feel I’m being cheated. What should I do?
-Buffy, Los Angeles, Ca
Buffy, sometimes I have to be the bearer of bad news, and this is one of those times. I’m sorry, but if things continue like this, your relationship is doomed.
Some people don’t need kissing in their relationship, and some do. A problem arises when one partner needs it and the other is turned off by it. It boils down to this: your needs are not being met and it’s probably not your fault. Imagine if you just stopped having sex with him. His needs would not be met and frankly that is a very valid reason for him to call it quits. I’m not saying to dump him (yet), but I am saying if something doesn’t change, you may want to start packing your bags.
There are many reasons he may not like kissing you. An obvious one is your breath. Perhaps you are too comfortable and have stopped brushing your teeth on a regular basis. Gross as it sounds, ladies get bad breath too, and guys might be too shy to tell you that. Make sure it’s not your fault beforehand.
Another reason could be he is cheating on you and just doesn’t like you anymore. Your relationship is relatively young, so this seems less likely, especially if it’s been a problem from the beginning. It is always is a possibility to consider however, so keep that in mind.
Something many women don’t think about is underlying psychological reasons he may not want to kiss. Any past child abuse can be an indicator of emotional distance as an adult. Also, people with body dysmorphic disorder are preoccupied with an imagined physical or minor defect that others often cannot see, or may not even exist. Perhaps he grew up with bad teeth and his family or friends made fun of him. Even if they are fixed now, if he thinks his mouth is ugly, he may avoid kissing. This can often be treated with therapy and if he’s willing to go, you need to be supportive. If he is unwilling to try, it’s time to get out of the relationship or you will live your life emotionally unsatisfied.
Emotional Benefits of Kissing
Kissing allows prospective mates to smell and taste each other’s pheromones for biological compatibility. Women are subconsciously more attracted to men whose major complex portion of their genome is different from their own, leading to offspring with resistance to a greater number of diseases with a better chance of survival. This explains why couples are more likely to bond if they have the right ‘chemistry.’ A study at the University of Albany found that women use kissing as a tool to find the right father for their children and often judge men exclusively on the quality of the first kiss they share.
In modern Western culture, kissing is most commonly an expression of affection, unlike many parts of the world where kissing is viewed as a means of respecting others. In Middle Eastern countries, until very recently, kissing traditionally was only considered proper when between 2 men, 2 women, or parents kissing their children. Kissing was not looked upon as a sexual expression in the Middle East.
Sensations involved in kissing aren’t confined to the mouth. Your facial nerve carries impulses between your brain and the muscles and skin in your face and tongue. While you kiss, it carries messages from your lips, tongue and face to your brain to tell it what’s going on. Your brain responds by ordering your body to produce:
• Oxytocin, which helps people develop feelings of attachment, devotion and affection for one another
• Dopamine, which plays a role in the brain’s processing of emotions, pleasure and pain
• Serotonin, which affects a person’s mood and feelings
• Adrenaline, which increases heart rate and plays a role in your body’s fight-or-flight response
When you kiss, these hormones and neurotransmitters rush through your body. Along with natural endorphins, they produce the euphoria most people feel during a good kiss. Your heart rate increases and your blood vessels dilate, so your entire body receives more oxygen than normal. You can also smell the person you’re kissing, and researchers have demonstrated a connection between smells and emotions.
What this all means is that the more you kiss, the better you feel, both physically and emotionally. In fact, couples that spend at least 15 seconds kissing each other hello and goodbye every day report happier relationships, greater sexual satisfaction, and they have an 80% higher chance of staying together until one partner dies.
Emotional benefits aside, the physical health benefits of kissing are huge. I’ve compiled a list of my favorite. All of these facts were pulled from actual medical journals and research logs.
- Those who kiss their partner goodbye each morning live five years longer than those who don’t. Kiss more, live longer.
- Kissing is great for self-esteem. It makes you feel appreciated and helps your state of mind.
- Kissing is a known stress-reliever. Passionate kissing relieves tension, reduces negative energy and produces a sense of well-being, lowering your cortisol ‘stress’ hormone.
- Kissing uses 30 facial muscles and it helps keep the facial muscles tight, preventing baggy cheeks! The tension in the muscles caused by a passionate kiss helps smooth the skin and increases the circulation.
- Kissing is good for the heart, as it creates an adrenaline which causes your heart to pump more blood around your body. Frequent kissing has scientifically been proven to stabilize cardiovascular activity, decrease blood pressure and cholesterol.
- Those who kiss quite frequently are less likely to suffer from stomach, bladder and blood infections.
- During a kiss, natural antibiotics are secreted in the saliva. Also, the saliva contains a type of anesthetic that helps relieve pain.
- Kissing reduces anxiety and stops the ‘noise’ in your mind. It increases the levels of oxytocin, an extremely calming hormone that produces a feeling of peace.
- The endorphins produced by kissing are 200 times more powerful than morphine.
So Buffy, if he refuses to get treatment or he won’t at least try to start kissing you, it’s time to move on.
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“Ask Her” is answered by relationship expert, TV personality, and shameless bikini bartender Lea Hatch, who specializes in picking up women, off-road Jeep tech, and relationship advice. Feel free to send any questions your heart desires to the magazine or Lea directly, either on twitter: @chirebailey or email: lea@ghostbookwriter.com.
Successfully Navigating Speed Dating
0March 28, 2012
With the launch party/speed-dating event of Finding Love Magazine looming, I’ve been getting bombarded with questions about speed dating protocol. Since you only have five to ten minutes to decide whom you consider long-term partner material, you must make your speed dating count.
Beautiful women love to go speed dating because men often don’t have the courage to approach them in a normal social setting, and it’s a fun night out with their girlfriends. This is not the case for the guys. Eligible men don’t round up their buddies on a Saturday night for a few beers and two hours of speed dating just for fun. The guys on your left and right will often be unattractive, dull, socially awkward, or live with their mother. If this is you, don’t panic! Ladies tend not too be too shallow, and one of these traits probably won’t be a deal breaker, but you’ll stand out from the crowd if you don’t have too many of them.
What you need to know is that this is prime hunting ground for the savvy player. Ladies speed date to look for a guy who is interesting, charming, and confident, and many of the men do not fall into this category. If you can pull off some of the advice here, you’re already ahead of the game. Here are my tips on successfully navigating speed dating while having a great time.
Dress to Impress
The girls you’ll meet have made an effort. They are at their hottest, and you need to be as well. Do not go in the soccer shirt you wore yesterday. A suit is not necessary, although for certain events may be appropriate. Wear a dress shirt and some decent shoes. It’s a first date combined with a job interview. Dress accordingly.
Don’t Open With The Usual
Most speed dating nights have an average of 20 to 30 people from each sex. If you’re near the end of the line, the bored woman in front of you has already repeated the story of where she comes from and what she does for a living for the past two hours. Start with something you can steer out of the mundane, such as topics along the lines of travel, dreams for the future or childhood memories.
Be Confident!
Show Confidence, Even If You Don’t Feel Confident! People like their partners to show confidence. The truth is you can fake it until you make it. In the course of “acting” confident, you actually train yourself to be more confident! Try it, it really works!
Don’t Be the Creepy Guy
Every speed dating event has one. You might not mean to be, but it will come off that way if you ask things like: “What is a girl like you doing at speed dating?” “Wanna hook up after this event?” “What’s your phone number?” She’ll be rubbed the wrong way. The system dictates that you discreetly mark the “yes” box and if the other person does the same, you will be provided with their contact details. Don’t push it.
Don’t Elaborate on Your Weaknesses
You have five minutes to sell yourself. Don’t talk about losing your job, not being able to find work, and moving in with your grandparents. Don’t mention ex-girlfriends, bad breakups or the fact that your family forced you to go to speed dating to get you out of the house because you’ve been pretty depressed recently. This actually might belong under the Creepy Guy section. Don’t do it. Positive attitude only!
Have Some Good Questions Prepared in Advance
This might be the most important part of speed dating. By preparing different questions and the answers to those questions, you have already differentiated yourself from the “what do you do for a living?” type of guys.
It’s often better to show a sense of humor than to appear overly serious at first, so here are some humorous questions you can use to break the ice:
- “What superpower would you most like to have?”
- “What’s your favorite dinosaur?”
- “Didn’t I meet you in 2009 at the Star Trek Convention?”
- How did your last relationship end… with a restraining order?
- “What’s the scariest thing you’ve ever done?”
- “What would you spend a million dollars on?”
- “You wouldn’t mind if my mom joined us if we go out on a date, would you?”
- “Could you excuse me? My cat gets lonely if he doesn’t hear my voice on the answering machine every hour.”
- If there were an extra hour in the day, what would you spend it doing?
- “Have you attended a high school reunion yet?”
- “If you could be any animal what would you be?”
These questions may seem silly, and that is the point. Unless everyone at your event has read this article, you will stand out as quirky and charming, but not desperate. Women can smell desperation, and it’s not a pretty picture. If you don’t take yourself too seriously, you will put the ladies at ease, and everyone will have a better time.
As an alternative to off-the-wall questions, spend a couple of minutes reading up on odd news stories you can pull out of your sleeve just in case. The guy with the nugget about the pole-dancing zoo animal may not be in high demand out on the streets, but he’ll inevitably leave an impression speed dating, just by having offered something different. Bonus points if you can actually weave your story into the conversation.
Here are some popular questions you may be asked, so have answers prepared in your mind. I personally don’t think you should ask too many of these questions, unless they are asked of you first, but one or two never hurts.
- What are you most proud of in your life?
- Is religion important to you?
- What do you do for fun?
- Do you want to get or have you ever been married?
- Do you want or do you have any children?
- If we got into an argument, how would we settle it?
- What do you do for work?
- Is sexual compatibility important to you?
- What do you look for in a spouse?
Say Goodbye Properly
This is CRUCIAL! Almost every guy speed dating stops mid-sentence and clumsily shuffles off to the next table when they are told their time is up. Don’t go in for a hug or anything creepy like that, but be sure to let her finish what she was saying, look her in the eye and say how very nice it was to meet her. Hold the eye contact for a second, go for a slight nod and a half-smile, and then move on without a backward glance. This will say volumes about you. I promise.
Finally, Do NOT line up your dates
Congratulations, you scored a few dates! Just remember girlfriends often tend to be attracted to the same type of guy, so be sure to start with one date and schedule the others afterward. Sixty percent of girls go speed dating with their friends, so if you accidentally try to line up three BFF’s the Friday, Saturday and Sunday after the event, they will not be impressed, and you’ll be back to square one.
Have a great time! If you are interested in speed dating, come down to the Finding Love Magazine Launch Party and Speed Dating event this weekend in Santa Monica, CA. Lea and I will be there mingling and having a good time. Stop by and say hi.
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Ryan Barlow is an American author and college professor. His undergraduate education is in sexual psychology, and he currently teaches veterinary medicine at Boston Reed University. He is pursuing his PhD in anthropology; with an emphasis in tribal sexuality.
For the more open minded, his rated R comedy feed can be found here.
Ask Her, Vol 4. Sexy Bedroom Role Play
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Dear Lea,
My wife just told me she wants to role-play in the bedroom. I’ve never done this and think it’s a little weird. Is she the weird one or am I?
Phillip L. –Hollywood, CA
Oh Philip, I envy you right now. You have a unique opportunity to take your relationship to an entirely new level. People who role-play in the bedroom are committed to making their relationship fun and exciting for the long haul. It also shows that they are a team. Two people in agreement to do amazing things to mind play themselves into spicing up life. However, neither one of you is weird. It takes bravery and a bit of imagination to put yourself out there for the one you love, and if you can pull it off, your relationship will blossom.
I fully recommend role-play, and NOT just in the bedroom. Have you seen Four Christmases? That opening scene gets me wet every time. You can begin by going out on the town using fake names. Have her dress wicked sexy and hit on her in a bar. Go to the Renaissance Faire and rent costumes and spend the day as M’Lord and M’Lady. Tie her up and demand she tell you the location of the rebel base, or you will extract the information forcefully… (One of my favorites). I spent this last weekend tied up with my head bowed to my “Master,” and I fell deeper in love with him for allowing me to serve him in that way. I can’t recommend it enough. It will truly spice up your marriage and your life.
While researching role-play, I came upon a counter argument against it that I would like to address. The author writes, “You should love me for who I am. Whatever attracted you to me to begin with should be enough to turn you on.”
I feel this is the writings of an insecure person whose marriage will likely fail. That’s like saying “I’m never going to shower because you should love me for who I am” or “I made out with your sister, get over it, because that’s who I am.”
Boredom breeds contempt. If your wife wants you to dress up as a plumber and “fix her pipes” then you should make the attempt to do it. If it’s something you aren’t comfortable with, (She wants to hang you upside down with a candle in your ass) then talk with her openly about compromises that you ARE comfortable with. Start small, work your way up.
Note that in most porn movies, the pizza delivery guy and photocopy fix-it dude always seem to be getting all the action. Baffled? It’s because women love a man in uniform… no matter how much authority is associated with his particular threads. Here are some of our favorite scenarios to bring costume and role-play into the bedroom.
Teacher and Student
This one is a staple, and it can work both ways. You can be a stern professor and she the innocent schoolgirl. She can be the headmistress and you a petulant schoolboy. It is a naughty turn-on to re-enact something that is a social taboo. Costumes usually involve a plaid skirt or dress for her, a shirt tucked into a pair of shorts for him… all dependent on who is the teacher and who is the student. Possible scenarios could be an after class tutorial session with an emphasis on sexual education, or a failing student willing to do anything to get a passing grade.
Doctor and Patient
There’s not a single woman I know who hasn’t had a crush on a doctor at some stage… fictional or otherwise. If you can score yourself some scrubs, that’ll help the authenticity of the scenario. Or you might have to resort to wearing nothing but a stethoscope. Focus this scenario on having her show you where it hurts and then you can do whatever you like to make each sore spot feel better. And what if insurance doesn’t cover the appointment? I’m sure the patient can work something out for payment.
Cop and Law-Breaker
Imagine it. You catch her speeding and she has to do everything she can to make it up to your… long arm of the law. In this game of role-play, the key themes are power and punishment. Whoever plays police officer is the one who decides whether or not the law-breaker gets redeemed for their bad behavior. It’s more than possible that a strip search will be required. Police costumes are relatively easy to come across and the handcuffs come in useful long after you’ve finished acting.
Stripper
Whether she’s pretending to be Demi in Striptease or you’re taking your inspiration from Danny De Vito in that episode of Friends… stripping scenarios are a great way to make undressing last longer than usual. This scenario is also a great one for utilizing props. Set up the bedroom with a good sound system, a chair and some 5-dollar bills and let the gyrating begin.
Spy and Interrogator
This one is one of my favorites. Perhaps she is undercover KGB, and you are a CIA interrogator. This one takes trust. You both dress in business attire, and the interrogator has to extract the secret information by any means necessary. Once the information is extracted, the game ends. Do you seduce it out of her? Do you tie her up and sexually torture her? The sky is the limit, but respect her (or your) boundaries. Bringing out the battery and jumper cables might seem fun, but remember to have a safe word in place just in case.
Sexy Bitch and Ladies Man
This one works best OUT of the bedroom. Have her dress like a slut (or at least uber sexy) and head to a bar. Let her flirt with the guys a bit, getting them to hit on her, and watch her blow them off. That’s when you walk in and pick her up smoothly. Use fake names. Take her home and never break character. Have a backstory. Watch Four Christmases again to get a good feel for this one. Hot.
If you’ve never engaged in this activity before, it might seem a little silly at first, but remain straight-faced and really commit to it and you might find you’re really enjoying yourself. There is something about the guise of being in character that allows couples to open their mind to things they might not have considered before. If you still can’t get into it, pretend you are Brad Pitt or George Clooney. They act every day, and it’s totally normal in society. Acting is just on screen role-play.
I promise you will take your relationship to an amazing level.
Have fun!
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“Ask Her” is answered by relationship expert and shameless bikini bartender Lea Hatch, who specializes in picking up women, off-road Jeep tech, and relationship advice. Feel free to send any questions your heart desires to the magazine or Lea directly, either on twitter: @chirebailey or email: lea@ghostbookwriter.com.
Your Online Dating Profile
0March 13, 2012
by Ryan Barlow
in Dating
So you are ready to take the plunge into online dating and aren’t sure how to start. Perhaps you’ve had a profile up for some time and have not had any luck with it. Either way, I will be going over the do’s and don’ts of your online dating profile. Although my advice will be geared towards guys, you ladies might want to take heed as well. As you design your online dating profile, remember to keep these guidelines fresh in your mind.
Photographs
This one is a no brainer, but is still commonplace in the online dating world. Perhaps you are worried about being seen by someone you know or just feel that looks shouldn’t matter. Hogwash. This screams insecurity and unwillingness to commit. Your photo isn’t merely meant to help people judge how attractive you are. Your profile photo is a sneak peek into your personality. The way you smile, where your photos were taken, even the way you comb your hair gives potential matches a glimpse into your true personality. If someone visits your profile and finds no photo there, they will feel you have something to hide. In addition, there are literally millions of profiles WITH pictures, so even the best-written profile will be overlooked without a photo. With this in mind, how can you hope to hold someone’s attention when there are millions of other daters out there who will reveal their true selves, photos and all? You need to know that leaving your photo space blank drastically reduces your appeal in the online dating world. Posting a profile picture also helps you ensure that whomever you contact will be comfortable interacting with you. When a girl has posted a few photos of herself online, getting a message from a faceless person will give her the creeps. She’s put herself out there; it’s not fair to ask her to communicate with a masked entity.
Another common problem is using photos that are 20 years old. Total douche move. So what if you are ugly? Being honest about it in your photograph speaks volumes about your character, and when she meets you for the date, she won’t be surprised. Of course you will want to use your best picture, we all do, but make it an accurate representation of yourself, and put more than one up, to show you aren’t ashamed of who you are. Oh… guys? No pictures with dolphins. Unless you train them.
Don’t Trash Online Dating
You may not be entirely convinced that online dating is cool. You may doubt that anyone worthwhile would be cruising the Internet for love. You may find the whole situation humiliating. Fine. But for the love of all that is good, don’t say so. You are doing it too, so get over yourself.
Realize that upwards of 75% of the United States have dated people they’ve met online, so if your profile starts out with phrases like “I doubt I’ll find anyone cool on here” or “I can’t believe I’ve reduced myself to this,” delete it now, jackass. The problem with this line is that you’re not considering your audience. You’ve just insulted the women looking for love, even if you were trying to be cool about it. You don’t have to defend your online dating life to your friends and family. The only people who will see this are other online daters, other people who have chosen the system, people whom you’ve just called losers by insulting the online dating pool. No one is going to look at your profile and say, “Check out this loser who can’t find a date the right way.” Keep reminding yourself: they’re there as well.
Don’t Invite People to Leave
This formula should never show up in your profile:
I’m _____, so if you have a problem with that, you can just move along.
Women are far guiltier of this than men (I’m a strong woman, I’m a big girl, I’m a night owl), but guys do it as well. By telling someone they can hit the road if they can’t deal with your quirks, you’re telling them you’re not only a flawed human being (like the rest of us); you’re also combative, and probably an asshole.
There are many things that you may need to address in your profile, but don’t be standoffish about it. Here are some examples that may require a heads up to prospective mates:
“I’m out of town 3 weeks a month.”
“I have four kids.”
“I’m celibate.”
“I spend my summers in a nudist colony.”
These are all good things to mention in a profile, but none of these need the big, sassy treatment. It’s the smaller things that are billed as major points of conflict. “I’m loud in public, so if you can’t deal with that . . .” “Only talk to me if you know how to treat an emotional girl.” “I have a quick temper, so if that’s a problem for you . . .”
Don’t be that person. Just be honest about who you are with no invitations for them to move on. If people have a problem, they can move along themselves.
No Venting
So your last relationship didn’t go so well. Perhaps your last six relationships didn’t go so well. Even so, your online profile is not the place to discuss it. You may have some words to say to all the lying, cheating, game-playing bitches out there, but save it for the rant forum on Craigslist. On your profile, you’re trying to be charming. No one feels charmed by someone who uses phrases like “Prove that you know how to be honest” and “I don’t even know why I want a relationship anymore.” People want to date and have fun, and if you are going to trash talk all of your ex-girlfriends, then you’ve proven you will trash talk her as well.
Have the Right Attitude.
That brings me to my last point: intentions. Be open to new experiences, because you’re going to have them. You’ll meet girls who are only interested in a quick fling or casual sex, girls who want a boyfriend, and sometimes girls who already have a boyfriend.
Without fail, the girls you meet will have some kind of prepared speech about how they only signed up for online dating because their friends made them, they were drunk, it was a dare, etc… as a means of conveying to you that they aren’t taking it too seriously, and as a way to protect their heart early on. And, really, that’s the key to success with online dating; don’t take it too seriously at first. You may get a lover or a wife out of it, but no matter what, at least you will have some fun stories to tell.
Still have trepidations? Some online companies like Ghostwriting Services will write an online dating profile for you, and it will be kept strictly confidential. If you need the help, give them a ring.
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Ryan Barlow is an American author and college professor. His undergraduate education is in sexual psychology, and he currently teaches veterinary medicine at Boston Reed University. He is pursuing his PhD in anthropology; with an emphasis in tribal sexuality.
For the more open minded, his rated R comedy feed can be found here.
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