Loafers

Loafers…LOVE EM! Nothing screams astute, yet casual like a good pair of loafers. Keep a dark and light pair in your ensemble. These Stussy Deluxe x Timberland are going to set you back $150, but you can easily find a good pair of Skechers or the like for much cheaper. You can’t wear sneakers all year, fellas.

Gaudy Watches

They’re big, they’re shiny – and they look retarded. Out is the look of the gaudy watch. I was reading an article on ManoftheHourMag.com that discussed what was new to come in time pieces. Well, thankfully a simple watch with a leather band is taking over. Again, you don’t have to break the bank for a decent watch. Something that compliments your shoes and belt is all you need. You can grab this Bulova in black or brown for just under $150 at Macy’s.

Cologne

What needs to be said about cologne? Well, the obvious being that you don’t put on more than 2 sprays. But, it’s also time for change. Sure, there’s the same cologne you’ve been wearing for years and the girls love it, right? Wrong. There are some new, exciting scents out this year that will pull you away from familiarity. These are the top 3 in 2012 rated by perfumesforme.com

Versace Pour Homme

Cool Water

212 Men

Hair

You’ve kept the same locks for some time now. It’s time to step out of your comfort zone and try something new. Fashionising.com has the styles for 2012, and here are a few.

Short waves/ short curls 

Slicked hair with a side part

Curly mop top

2011 was really the start to the new decade, but 2012 is going to be where you really own it. It doesn’t matter whether you’re in your 20′s, 30′s or 40′s – now can be the time you really start to shine. The time you try new things. I hate to quote a Natasha Beddingfield song, but today is where your book begins. The rest is still unwritten.

-Tommy B

You’re single. You want a great girl that isn’t crazy, looks attractive, and has her shit together. But you keep asking yourself what the secret is on how to get women. The truth is, it’s all about confidence, but not the confidence you have after 6 beers. It comes from surrounding yourself with people that have goals and ambition. It comes from growing as a person in your everyday life. It comes from being in decent shape. It’s not the end of the world. You’re going to find out how to get women.

Your friends

Take a good look at your friends. Do your friends know how to get women? They say if you look at your 5 closest friends you’ll find a pretty good image of yourself. Maybe your friends are good with women and that intimidates you because you’re not there yet. Either way, you want to be sure you’re surrounding yourself with people that complement you, not by people that bring you down. If your group of friends have records, shitty credit and no prospects – it’s time for a different group. If your friends are the type to get falling down drunk every time you go out – it’s time to consider some alternatives. Approaching women is only half the battle. Once you’re engaged in conversation you better have something to offer a girl. Sure, you’re going to sleep with a few running some decent game, but it’s not going to last long. Find people with vision and ambition. It rubs off on you, and it shows you’re no slouch.

Your physique

She takes care of hers, so you better be damn sure you’re taking care of yours. Look, you don’t have to be a Greek god to date attractive women. You do, however, have to make an attempt to take care of yourself. Some girls and guys have it easy – they can eat whatever they want, not lifter a finger, and retain an awesome body. The rest of us, though, have to count calories, watch what we eat, and spend some time at the gym. You don’t have to give up the food that you love, but if you’re overweight you’re going to have to cut back. I’m a thin guy, so I have to eat everything imaginable and spend hard time at the gym. You HAVE to spend time being active. Join a gym close to a place you are at all times. Work, home, whatever. You have to put this into your MUST category. There are things you have to do, and things that you MUST do(pay bills, eat, sleep, etc). This HAS to be one of them. Stop making excuses about being to skinny and not being able to gain weight, or being to big and not being able to lose it. There are too many success stories to fall back on that bullshit. Start getting in shape, and start now.

Your finances

You don’t have to be rich, but you do have to be able to take a girl out, right? While you think every girl is out there to chase money(and some are, believe me), it’s just not true. Most women just want a guy that can take care of himself. If you have shitty credit, fix it. If you don’t make a lot of money, cut back on your spending. Times are tight, man. You really want to find any way you can to make more money these days. It’s turning in to the haves and the have-nots, and you want to be on the side that has something. Whether you start a business or go back to school, do something to create more wealth. Don’t do it for women, do it for financial freedom.

Your job

There’s nothing worse than leaving work feeling like shit. That’s not to say every day is going to be rosy at the office, but if you’re having more and more shitty days than good ones, you might want to find a different job. I’m not saying you have to quit your job, but pick up the classifieds and market yourself to people that will appreciate your talents. Take something you love to do and make it into your job. Make sure it’s profitable, though. Too many people give up their career to chase something that nobody has any interest in paying for. The secret is finding something you love that balances well into making a living.

The truth is, there is no “magic bullet” when it comes to how to get women. We’re going to write more articles in detail on what to wear(clothes that make you feel comfortable, but project a sense of having it together), confident approaches, NLP, fitness, humor, and anything you may have questions about.

Cheers,

Tommy B

You met a girl, you hit it off – maybe you even slept with her, and now she isn’t responding to your texts or calls. This post is going to be really short, because it’s really freakin simple: you’re too fucking eager. 

What you’re probably doing, and what you should be doing. 

Okay, so you’re out with your friends having a good time, and you finally muster up the courage to strike up a conversation with the girl that keeps smiling at you. You’re rocking it that night. You have the cool hair, the cool shoes, the cool shirt – you’re in the zone.

I have a friend that is no stranger to picking up girls in a bar. He’s the guy that just has no care in the world when it comes to talking to women. His downfall: the same courage he has to land em’, scares them right the fuck away. His first mistake: he’s talking way too soon and way too often. His second: he doesn’t know how to text. It sounds stupid, right? Yes, texting is HUGE. How you text, how often you text, how soon you respond and what you say are huge when it comes to women.

So the girl you met, she was totally into you, but she’s not responding to your texts/calls. If you’ve ever seen the movie Swingers, it’s a great movie, but Vince’s 3-day rule is total bullshit. If she dropped her guard down to give you her number, you damn well better use it. If you hit her up 3 days later she’s not even going to remember who you are. Chances are she’s probably busy, though. That’s the beauty of texting. We’re so accustomed to asynchronous conversation now because we don’t have to be tied to a phone. I hate talking on the phone, and most younger girls do, too. Sure, she wants to hear your voice at some point, but texting is so much easier, and if you’re slick enough you can even master some sarcasm and grab a laugh or two. Most guys get caught up in calling first thing the next day, or saying something stupid like, “You’re so pretty. I can’t wait to take you out sometime”. Save it. Pretty, fun girls are used to hearing how pretty they are. You’re much better off going with something witty and clever. Chances are she told you what she does when you first met, so make up something goofy about her job(if you’re texting her during the week, anyway).

Grammar and Spelling

I can’t tell you how much of a pet peeve of mine it is to deal with shitty spellers. If you don’t know English, learn it. If you don’t know the difference between to, two and too, learn it. If you’re not sure about how to spell something, look it up. Girls are smart(most of them, anyway). You can impress the hell out of a girl just with your spelling(as stupid as this sounds, I promise you it’s true). However, if you are butchering sentences with chopped up garble you are going to be forgotten about quicker than the guy that used a shitty line on her at the club. Don’t curse a lot, either(funny, right?). If you’re going to curse, make sure it has a place. Don’t use “fuck” every other word. The “f ” bomb is funny when you place it strategically, but if you go overboard you just sound like a hoosier.

Response Time

Girls like a guy that’s busy. If you are waiting patiently for this chick to respond only to respond immediately after, you look needy. First of all, she’s probably busy, and nobody wants to be tied to a conversation while they’re at work. Besides, if you’re playing your cards right and giving enough time, she’s probably anxiously awaiting your response. If you’re getting back at her the minute she sends a message, you’re giving it away too easy. Oh, another thing, too. Try to gauge what kind of responses you’re getting. If you’re getting nothing but one-word responses and she’s not engaging in conversation, she’s probably not into you. Don’t ask questions, don’t ask her if she’s busy or if she wants to talk later. Forget about her and move on.

Chances are, you call or text way too soon, way too often. Dating is a game of cat and mouse, unfortunately, and you have to learn how to play. If she give you her number, be sure to call or text her, but don’t be the guy that “won’t quit fucking calling me”.

-Tommy B